Why You're Single

You’re single because you’re single. It’s not because you texted too much or too little or waited 33 minutes to respond because he took 23. It’s not because you met up with your ex that night at 5 a.m. that no one knows about, or because you kissed another boy after a date with a loser.

You’re not single because you spit food on that date or tripped coming out the the movie theatre. You’re not single because you hurt your first boyfriend really badly when you were 15 or because you have yet, to this day, to apologize. It’s not because you were secretly jealous when your friend got a boyfriend or that a guy you dated for two months now has a really cute girlfriend and looks really happy. And you’re happy for him. But still ill that he found someone before you.

You’re not single because you slept with your ex boyfriend. You’re not single because half the world found out when you didn’t even want to remember it yourself. You’re not single because you think the guy your friend wants to hook you up with is ugly or not tall enough. It’s not because you’re not willing to put up with someone who doesn’t brush their teeth on a regular basis.

You’re not single because your standards are too high. Good for you for having standards. It’s not because you didn’t like that really, really good guy who wanted to take you on a date and you just weren’t feeling it. And it’s not because you like to wear pajama pants as soon as you get home and wash all the makeup off your face. You’re not single because you didn’t learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a Friday night with your blanket and a cold beer than shower, get ready, and go out. You’re not single because something is wrong with you.

You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that. You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a boy and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.

Plateau Hiatus...

UGH! I've disappeared off the blogging planet these past couple of weeks because I've been stuck in this awful plateau. Yep. I way the same now as I did ummm...last time I updated. STUPID. I guess it's better than gaining, but whatever. Anyway. If you were wondering...thats whats been going on. So I'm back and better than ever. Bring it on tomorrow :) will only lose from here on out (say a prayer for me) I'd love to hear from ya'll..it's been awhile!

Where I Thought I'd be at 25

Hey ya'll :) So it's been awhile since I've updated, and you know...not too much is new. Still kind of at a plateau with the weightloss thing. Didn't gain, didn't lose today...so I guess it could be much worse, right?!

Anyway...this weekend was pretty cool. Got to spend alot of time with my family and friends, finally ended my last relationship completely. Well, it's been over, but we were still doing the whole hanging out and texting each other thing...we both decided to just cut it off completely so we can move on. It hurt alot at first, but ultimately, I really think that was the best thing for me emotionally. I won't feel like I'm getting "lead on" anymore. You know...we've all been there. Well, most of us have anyway.

If you would've asked me when I was 17 years old, where I thought I would be when I was 25...I would think I would have a couple of kids by now, a husband, and be living the whole perfect little dreamhouse with a white picket fence, story. Yeah right. Now that I'm 25, I see that life isn't always going to be that fairytale that you had dreamed of, and that maybe waiting for a husband, and kids, and all that...isn't so bad afterall. Of course there are days where I'm jealous because I see my sister that's 3 years younger than me with her little family and realize that 90% of my high school graduating class have all of these cute little families that I have always wanted...but you know- the more I think about it, the more I think that God is going to bless me with something amazing when the time is right.

Or I hope so at least :)

Here are a couple of pictures from the weekend! 

Me and my sweet sister :) 

Take your own advice.

So this morning, I was reading through my blog feed and Roni (a blogger I follow) had a blog on "10 things you tell your friends that you should tell yourself" and it was such an inspiring post. There are so many times I look in the mirror thinking I'm not good enough, or I wish I looked like so and so, I hate my body, I wish I didn't get upset over everything...you know. ALOT of things that I wish I could change about myself. I don't really recognize my self-worth and that's SUCH a problem.

Time after time, I find myself giving my friend's advice...and thinking "Kari, what kind of person are you to give them advice that you can't even take yourself?!"

And it's so true. My friend Katie has been going through a tough break-up (as have I) and I always tell her:

"Just be patient, the right guy is out there"

"It may not get better today, or tomorrow, but it will eventually, just give it time"

"Be happy with yourself first, that's all that matters"


Why can't I tell myself those things? Why can't I take my own advice and boost my own confidence?

So starting today (or trying to start today) every time I give my friend some encouraging advice, I'm gonna secretly give myself some advice :)

And by the way y'all...the new iOS7 update is SWEET! 

Text messages look all cute & girly now.

Inbox view.

The iTunes Radio is probably the best idea EVER. It's like Pandora, with the option to buy the song at the top. LOVE THIS!

New icons!

No Weigh-In Surprise.

Hey ya'll! Happy MONDAY! Ok ok ok...I know most of you aren't happy it's Monday (including myself) but I figured I would make that sound a little exciting ;)

My week tends to go something like this:

MONDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
TUESDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
WEDNESDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
THURSDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
FRIDAY
SATURDAY
SUNDAY

I had a pretty fun weekend though since my last update on Saturday. Yesterday, me, my sister and her boys went to my grandma's house for lunch and it was pretty amazing as you see. It's not really possible for me to turn away from a good, homecooked meal. We had roast, rice and gravy, macaroni and cheese, green beans & cornbread. Welcome to the south ya'll.

I mean...that right there explains the post of this title. I'm going to quit weighing every single day because I'm sure that'll just drag me down...especially on days I eat like that. So from now on, I'm going to weigh in every Wednesday. You know...do the whole "weigh-in Wednesday" thing. We'll see how that goes. It may last...it may not. So yeah. That's my new challenge.

Last night, I watched the Miss America pageant and have to say I was highly disappointed. Like alot of folks, I was definitely rooting for my home state, Miss Louisiana- Jaden Leach, to take the crown. Unfortunately, she didn't even get in the top 15. And she's really drop dead gorgeous. ANNOYING. Get your stuff together, judges! Grr. A guy I went to high school is actually dating her, so I thought that was kind of cool.

On the food side of things, today is a new week...so starting out kind of fresh again. I had a turkey, cheese & mayo sandwich along with a diet coke for breakfast. I was kind of in a hurry, and dropped the newspaper off at my grandma's before work this morning- so she had that waiting on me when I got there. I ain't gonna complain :) But now...i'm REALLY FULL.

Do any of ya'll have any quick meal recipes or ideas I could try while I'm at work? I'm here 8 hours a day sitting at a desk, so I need to keep it light.

I'm a weekend hermit.

It's FRIDAY finally finally finally. And Friday the 13th at that.

Ha...can't wait to see what kind of chaos life decides to throw my way this evening.

I know that sounded kind of Negative Nancy, but ya'll...my week has been laughable at this point. But not laughable in a fun, happy way. It's like one thing after another and I hate to ask, "what's next?" You know...I think everyone has weeks like that, so I'm not going to let it get me down. Just say a prayer for me that something positive comes my way soon :) To give you a brief summary...my iPhone screen broke and it's over $200 to fix it (for the 3rd time), my ex-boyfriend has happily moved on while i'm still over here grieving, my weightloss plateau is about to drive me to insanity & my laundry pile is like...Mount Everest. I know this sounds so dramatic, and there are people in the world that have it way worse than me...but like I said, it's just been one of those weeks.

So yeah, on to better things. Like my diet. Everything's going wonderful as of this morning weight wise. I'm FINALLY down to the weight I've been aiming for all week to get back to, so hopefully it's all downhill from there this weekend (unless I have another crazy binge I'm going to have to fight another week to work off) BUT....THAT WON'T HAPPEN. Trust me. I just hope to move out of this plateau now that I'm where I wanna be. Binging is for the birds.

What do ya'll do to stay away from the tempting food on the weekends? Sometimes I almost wished I worked 7 days a week...because seriously. I have no issues staying on track during the weekdays.

So my weekend plans are pretty bare at the moment. Don't really know what I'm going to do..but sometimes those are the best weekends to have, right? I have a severe social problem. I hate going out in public sometimes because I feel SO FAT...so I will stay at home...and literally do nothing. Well except catch up on Keeping up with the Kardashians, Honey Boo Boo, Duck Dynasty, Teen Mom 3, and the Rivals 2. Hahahaha. That's my life ya'll, that's my life. Let me know what ya'll are up to.

And here is some advice I found very encouraging on another blog today:

To walk far, carry less.

Maybe part of growing up is learning that it’s okay to set something down, just because it’s heavy.

You may really love that thing. You’re likely attached to it for reasons even you don’t understand. You may have held it tightly against your chest for so long that it feels like part of you… But you simply cannot carry the weight of it anymore.

So you let it go.

You let it go, and it makes you free.

Letter to my Future Husband

So, these past few days have been a little tough for me if you've been following my blog. Yesterday, on my down time at work I was just browsing through blogs on heartbreak, and you know...mushy stuff like that. I came across a blog by a girl that writes letters to her future husband and plans on giving them to him on their wedding day. She hasn't ever met this guy, and isn't in a current relationship. I thought this was such a good idea, but I also know that guys aren't really into the whole "I'm gonna write you a letter every single day, and you have to sit down and read every single one of them" kind of thing. So I decided to alter this project a little bit, and type one letter to my future husband before I meet him. One when I know he's the one, one on my engagement day, and one on my wedding day and give him all 4 letters on my wedding day. Cute right?! So here is letter #1 ya'll. Hope you guys enjoy...let me know what you think and let me know if any of ya'l have done this.


Hello there my future husband (well this is kind of awkward),

So this is my first letter to you. I really have dreamed my whole life of the “perfect little love story”, although I’ve constantly been reminded that fairytales in real life don’t exist. I completely believe that, but I also believe that when you find the right person, sparks really do fly. At 25 years old though, I’m starting to wonder where the heck you are.

Right now, I have absolutely no idea if I’ve ever met you, if you’re someone I talk to on a daily basis, or if you’re some stranger I’m just going to randomly come across one day. We haven’t even begun our love story yet…well I don’t think we have. UNLESS, I revisited the cemetery and you’re that ex-boyfriend that I really ended up “not being able to live without” haha. I do want you to know that, whoever you are, I think about you often. I see all of these happy couples around me, all of my happily married friends and family members, and really look forward to us being like that one day.

I wonder what we will fight about, what our home will be like, and what our kids will look like. I wonder about our wedding day often. I don’t do very well with large crowds, so fingers crossed we run off and do this somewhere not so public. I wonder if we’ll fight to save our marriage if things get rocky, and I wonder if you can put up with my temper tantrums that come in week long spurts. I wonder if you’ll roll your eyes at me when I get dramatic, which I tend to do often, or if you’ll just laugh at me and understand that’s just how I am. I wonder if you will sit on the couch with me on Mondays nights to watch the Bachelor, or if you’ll be the one person that can stray me away from that addiction. I wonder what my friends will think about you, and I wonder if they’ll see me light up when I talk about you. I wonder if you’ll get along with my dad…because my track record isn’t looking too good…and I wonder if you’ll get to meet my grandma, because she’s taught me so many life lessons that I will bring into our marriage. I can’t wait to tell you the cute love stories of my grandparents, and I promise you that my mom will love you like you’re her own son.

I’m nowhere near the woman God has called me to be. I have major sins and major faults, as everyone does. So I wonder if God is waiting for me to make those changes before handing you over to me, or if he’s going to hand you to me to HELP me make these changes. I want you to know that we are going to be given so many challenges throughout our marriage…everything isn’t going to always be butterflies and flowers, and I pray that we will be able to get through them hard times and come out stronger than we were before.

Obviously, I think about us a lot. But I can’t wait to start our life together.
Starting tonight, I’m going to start praying for you. I really do want you to make good decisions and I want the best for you. I’m going to start the most important part of this early, and center our relationship around God.


Yours truly,
Kari

Food, boys, work & cleaning.

Good morning, or afternoon, or evening...whichever you prefer. I've been coming back to my blog trying to update since 8:30 this morning. It's now 11:45 and you see how far I've gotten. Shows you how busy it's been at work this morning. I guess I spoke too soon when I acted like my job was a piece of cake :) On the brighter side of things, I won't complain because at least my day is somewhat flying by.

So I'm finally down a few pounds from my horrible binge this weekend. 2 more pounds to go before I'm back the lowest point I was about a week ago. Gah, now that I just read that sentence it sounds awfully confusing. Let me word this out more appropriately: I'm not near the lowest point I've ever been in my life weight wise, but I'm almost to the lowest point I've been in the past 4'ish years or so. Ok. That sounded better.

I feel like during the week, I stick with my diet SO well, but on the weekends, I completely mess up all the hard work I did during the week. I've GOT to work on that.

And ya'll. I am so lazy when it comes to cleaning & doing laundry during the week. LIKE I HATE IT. I find so many excuses to wait until Sundays to catch up on housework. It's so ridiculous. BUTTTTTTTTTT, yesterday...I got home from work and cleaned my place from top to bottom, washed dishes, did laundry, organized all of my jewelry. I was so proud of myself. Eeeek! So here's a little peak...once again. My iPhone lighting sucks. Sorry. 

But anyway...I had a random emotional day yesterday. I really hate those. Sometimes it feels like everything is going so wonderful, then out of nowhere..here come your feelings just slapping you in the face. I got a little down about a stupid boy. That I shouldn't even give the time of day. I have a bad habit of "visiting the graveyard" as my grandmaw would call it. DUMB DUMB DUMB. Instead of putting myself out there to meet new guys, I always revisit the past...which is by far the stupidiest thing to do if any of ya'll were wondering. If the past calls, don't answer...it has nothing new to say. So I thought I would post a little quote on here that might lift some of ya'll up, it sure helped me look at things differently yesterday.

And now for a little diet motivation for those that eat out of boredom:

Have a good day ya'll, feel free to write me :)

College football is the devil & breakfast muffins are yummy.

Hey ya'll! So it's been a couple of days since I've gotten the chance to update. Thankfully, I'm finally finding a little bit of time during my morning at work. This weekend was absolutely terrible when it came to my diet. I've had more terrible days than good days here lately. Seriously. College football is the DEVIL. Once again, I went to my dad's house for the LSU game and binged on some good grilling. I ate like 5 of the little boneless pork pieces stuffed with cream cheese & jalapenos wrapped in bacon. Best appetizer dish ever for a cookout if ya'll are wondering. That doesn't include the cheesy potatoes, boudin, or BBQ'd grilled chicken I stuffed my face with 5 minutes prior. Geez. Welcome to Louisiana ya'll. We keep our bellies full. It's crazy how ONE binge like this can cause you to gain like...5 pounds. UGH. So I'm back at this hardcore dieting again. I gotta drop around 5 more pounds to get back to my lowest I've been on this diet so far. WAHHHHHHHHH. This sucks. REALLY. Hopefully I learned my lesson not to pull that crap again. The saying is true, "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." Because this fat thing I feel right now....is awful, awful, awful, depressing, stupid, regretful. And I mean, I really don't even know what skinny feels like, but I'm pretty sure it feels better than this overflowing stomach thing I'm experiencing right now. Haha. Ok. Anyway...on to other things. Like selfies from the weekend:

Ok I really dont know why this mirror makes me look skinnier than I really am...but FYI, I really ain't that small ya'll. And I'm sorry that the brightness sucks...I'm currently using an iPhone 4 while my iPhone 5 screen is out of service (until I cough up $230 to get it fixed). So yeah..that's my reasoning for the horrible quality pictures.

I've been in this weird music mood lately where I like all these sad, breakup songs...and right now I'm completely obsessed with the group Passenger, and their song, "Let her Go". It's such a cool song...the lead singer's voice is such a different sound, and I don't even know how to explain it. I guess it sounds like, Indie'ish <-- if that's even a word. Ya'll should definitely go download it and listen to it. Great lyrics. And I'm all about strong lyrics. Especially when they're that relateable. Back to food while i'm jumping from subject to subject. I made some really cool breakfast muffins for the week yesterday that are really yummy. They consist of hashbrowns, eggs, cheese, sausage, salt and pepper. You bake them in a muffin pan, and I made 12. 6 for me and 6 for my little sister. Here's the recipe: Kari's Breakfast Muffins (Serving size: 12 muffins) Ingredients: 6 eggs 1 cup of shredded cheese 2 cups of cooked ground sausage 1/2 TBSP of salt 1/2 TBSP of pepper 3 cups of thawed hash browns 3 TBSP of melted butter 1/2 cup of bell peppers (optional) 1.) Preheat oven to 375 degrees. 2.) Mix together hashbrowns, butter, salt and pepper in a mixing bowl. 3.) Spray muffin pan, if needed. 4.) Put the hashbrown, butter, salt and pepper mixture in the bottom and up the sides of each muffin holder (note: this will not look very uniformed...it doesn't matter, it will all mix together evenly in the end) 5.) Bake in the oven for 12-15 minutes. 6.) Take out of oven and evenly distribute sausage into all of the muffin pan cups. 7.) Mix together cheese, eggs, and bell peppers (if you used them) 8.) Pour cheese, eggs & pepper mixture over each muffin pan cup. 9.) Turn oven down to 300 degrees, and bake for an additional 15 minutes. 10.) Let cool for 5 minutes, take a knife to make a space around the edges, and pop them out. I keep mine in the fridge for the week in a tupperware, and every morning I take out one, heat it up and have my breakfast :)

Godly goal.

Happy Tuesday y'all. 

Ok not really HAPPY because its only Tuesday and I kind of feel like from Monday on, I'm completely focused on the weekend. That's a bad way to live life- I just realized how depressing and negative that sounded. So maybe I should be more positive. Lets try this again. 

IT'S TUESDAY Y'ALL! Ahhhhhhh! I love Tuesdays. I cant even stand it. I love waking up and it not being Monday. I love how tomorrow is midweek. Ok. I give up. This is dumb. You get the point, it's Tuesday and I'm sure I don't have to fill y'all in on that ;) 

Back to the basics. So I don't really want to blog about what I ate today or how wonderful my diet is going (which btw is going pretty spectacular). I would rather focus on something that has been weighing pretty heavy on my heart these past couple of days. 

God. I don't think I've talked about my spiritual life on here before, but I figured why not?! I know people have their opinions and stuff but I mean really. I'm not going to hide who I am because of what others think. God is the most important thing in my life. I feel like I have so much room to grow in my spiritual life, by no means am I perfect, but here lately, God has really blessed me and really shown me how he can work in my life. I have a really bad tendency of leaning on God when I'm having a hard time. Well, I don't know if that's a bad thing necessarily, but it causes me to feel extremely guilty that I don't focus on him as much as I should when I'm happy or when things are going good for me. It's like the second I see heartbreak, or the second things go downhill in my life...I turn to God. So one of the biggest goals I have set for myself this week is to start having a best friend type of relationship with God. Like it should be. Happy, sad, mad, excited....he's gonna hear about it all :) 

Downsizing..

Well hey y'all. I feel like I haven't wrote in this thing in forever which in reality it's only been like 3 days'ish...if that's even a word?!

But yeah. I'm downsizing scrub pants and I couldn't be more excited. I'm going to a MEDIUM. And that sounds pretty skinny. Which I'm far from skinny but hey...at least I'm not ashamed to check out at the store with my medium scrub pants like I was with the large. Lol. Still not down a size in my top though. GRRRRR. I have pretty large tata's so that may be my excuse in that department. Although that excuse won't last forever.

But yeah, I'm feeling pretty good today. It's nice when you can see results in your clothes. Like I've never been so happy about busting a sag. Seriously.

SOOO! There's my feelings in a nutshell. What have y'all been up to?! Any fun stories? Let me hear em because I'm kind of sitting here staring at the rain for the rest of the evening. Hah. 

You can't really see my baggy pants there. Ugh. Let me try this again....

There's a better idea...and last but not least. A facey. My terminology for a selfie of the face ;)

Ok. Bye.